The Consent Workshop Dear Men, Here’s How To Be An Ally

Dear Men, Here’s How To Be An Ally

I’ll be spelling ‘women’ as ‘womxn’ in this article. Just to piss off the patriarchy lords and ladies. Feminist activist, Eniola Hu is of the opinion—which I strongly believe and accept— that men cannot be feminists. However, you can be an ally. We define male allies as members of an advantaged group (men) who are committed to building relationships with womxn, expressing as little sexism in their own behaviour as possible, understanding the social privilege conferred by their gender, and demonstrating active efforts to address and smash gender inequalities at work, home, society and everywhere they find themselves. So, here’s what you MUST know to become an ally or be… Read More

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The Consent Workshop How to be a Feminist Ally, for 'Feminist Allies'.

How to be a Feminist Ally, for ‘Feminist Allies’.

We live in times where not only have men thought it cool to be identified as a feminist ally, they have made said space male-centric, doing the opposite of what the word allyship connotes. Feminist allyship in this sense has become a tool in the arsenal of soft-core misogynists, to be dangled and ultimately withdrawn in the faces of women when they don’t present themselves as good feminists.  It is disguised in eloquent threads on twitter that reek of faux intelligence, misunderstood ideologies and a casual condescension of women. In essence, allies today make it seem as though feminists should be grateful that they are being offered the strong support of men.  Sound… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Religion and Misogynistic Doctrines

Religion and Misogynistic Doctrines

There is no doubt that religion plays a very crucial role in the perpetuity of rape culture in modern society.  In predominantly orthodox Muslim countries, we see this in the inability of women to access certain privileges without permission or consent of a male relative being either husbands or fathers. In a lot of cultures, women are second-class citizens, not able to inherit lands, not able to access education outside of traditional gender-based education,and prevented from expressing individuality. To a sexist society, being a woman is an insufficiency. Don’t believe me? Here are three instances of doctrine taught by mainstream religion and how they perpetuate misogyny. Let’s start from “the beginning.” Woman… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Everything I Have Learnt From Feminists Online

Everything I Have Learnt From Feminists Online

Paragraph Stephanie C Odili is a feminist writer and author, whose work focuses on writing, speaking and advocating for gender equality, education, nation building, climate change and productive living. She has written over 200 articles and is now a top writer in feminism on Medium. Womanhood surrounds what can be offered and controlled. In our world, womanhood is the absence of personhood. – Ashley A Cummings. I want to start by saying that I am deeply sorry for not attributing each of these lessons to individual people. I have been collecting these notes for about a year and lost track of who said what. But most importantly, I have grown… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Reforming Sexual Laws In Nigeria

Reforming Sexual Laws In Nigeria

We can begin the conversation on the current state of the framework of sexual laws in Nigeria and its possible improvement, by an examination of the existing legal protection, if any, provided by the Nigerian law. It is certainly not out of place to assert that Nigerian laws on sexual harassment seem to be inadequate and for victims of sexual harassment to be properly protected in Nigeria effective protection must be provided by our laws. In this article, we will focus on the provisions in Nigerian law regarding rape, specifically marital rape and the age of consent.  The criminal code defines rape as any sexual intercourse with anyone without his or… Read More

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