TCW Chat: Olutimehin Adegbeye

This month, we at The Consent Workshop are engaging in conversations with some interesting people as part of our #TCWChat campaign. We kickstart this conversation with Olutimehin Adegbeye, who was really pleasant and interesting to talk to. We spoke about Consent education, how society should get involved in the process of obtaining and teaching consent, and sexual assault including the role the government plays in it currently. Olutimehin is a writer, speaker and advocate; her work focuses on rights, inclusion and justice in the areas of Gender, Sexualities and Urbanisation. She has worked with several political, cultural, civil society and corporate organisations, and has been invited to speak at events… Read More

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The Consent Workshop The Bystander Approach

The Bystander Approach

Society does not do a great job at condemning sexual assault publicly. This is especially in moments where we are not directly affected. We know it should not be happening, but we are slower to respond when it does not happen to us, a friend or a family member. We should not be waiting to be directly affected by tools of the patriarchy, to understand that the urgent need for it to be dismantled. Jackson Katz describes a Bystander as anyone who is not involved in the dyad of abuse but is embedded in peer culture relationships with people who might be in that situation. The general idea with this approach… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Becoming Better Allies

Becoming Better Allies

The journey towards ending sexual violence requires going against norms that have been ingrained in us unconsciously and, in some cases, consciously. It is important to remember that we cannot apply technical or routine solutions to a problem that has proven to be outside our current strategy.  The eradication of sexual harassment and assault is an adaptive challenge that needs to be tackled with an adaptive solution. Sexual harassment has been woven into our social and cultural fabric by its normalization and even its legalization, resulting in generations of individuals who have had no knowledge of consent as a right or a responsibility. Simply put, we need to move beyond… Read More

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The Consent Workshop “How to Prevent rape?”

“How to Prevent rape?”

People spend so much time telling women how to avoid rape in a bar or an alley but what are the prevention measures women should take when the rapist isn’t the stranger in the bar who offered to buy a drink, or the stranger on the train/bus who stared at you all through the ride? What do we do when the rapist is a brother, father, uncle or husband? I’ve heard so many rape prevention measures usually targeted at women and girls, things to do and things not to do to prevent it yet people rape women and girls everyday, one would think that with so many prevention measures out… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Why We Need to Get Rid of Rape Culture.

Why We Need to Get Rid of Rape Culture.

  Rape Culture is society’s refusal to recognize the recent predatory behaviour exhibited by Kodak Black towards Young Ma, the trivialization of sexual assault and unwanted sexual advances in today’s society. It is an environment that allows sexual violence to occur and one that creates justifications for when it happens. Emi Boscamp for mindbodygreen.com, explains this as all the ways we teach women to prevent rape as opposed to teaching men not to rape.  Society does not explicitly say “rape people”, but it informally educates and conditions us to see rape as a normalcy, even up to the point of making justifications as to why it happened. This is where the danger is. Once… Read More

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