The Consent Workshop The Bystander Approach

The Bystander Approach

Society does not do a great job at condemning sexual assault publicly. This is especially in moments where we are not directly affected. We know it should not be happening, but we are slower to respond when it does not happen to us, a friend or a family member. We should not be waiting to be directly affected by tools of the patriarchy, to understand that the urgent need for it to be dismantled. Jackson Katz describes a Bystander as anyone who is not involved in the dyad of abuse but is embedded in peer culture relationships with people who might be in that situation. The general idea with this approach… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Why We Need to Get Rid of Rape Culture.

Why We Need to Get Rid of Rape Culture.

  Rape Culture is society’s refusal to recognize the recent predatory behaviour exhibited by Kodak Black towards Young Ma, the trivialization of sexual assault and unwanted sexual advances in today’s society. It is an environment that allows sexual violence to occur and one that creates justifications for when it happens. Emi Boscamp for mindbodygreen.com, explains this as all the ways we teach women to prevent rape as opposed to teaching men not to rape.  Society does not explicitly say “rape people”, but it informally educates and conditions us to see rape as a normalcy, even up to the point of making justifications as to why it happened. This is where the danger is. Once… Read More

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The Consent Workshop 10 Things We Can Do to Weaken Rape Culture

10 Things We Can Do to Weaken Rape Culture

We live in a time where most things, including social justice, are very accessible through the internet. Social media specifically, amplifies the voices of social justice warriors and spectators alike. With every passing day, a cause is named and framed within theory, raising yet another dimension of awareness (See: fatphobia, transphobia, misogynoir, ableism). While it may appear that we are becoming better people with the rise of consciousness, somehow, we remain unresolved about sexual consent and what is sexually inappropriate behavior. We still accommodate rape culture in such a casual, normalized way. Rape culture is any attitudes or beliefs that overlook, trivialize and/or normalize sexual assault, rape, and even “general… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Sleep Was My Escape (TW)

Sleep Was My Escape (TW)

TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ABUSE I was not the perfect victim. I get slut-shamed to this very day, because I was not your good girl with the long skirts. I am constantly told I must have asked for it, that I didn’t fight back enough. I froze. Olohije Oyakhire  They didn’t understand my reaction to this violence. Sexual Violence, a term I have come to prefer saying in place of the four letter word that means I have been tainted. My soul was darkened by that morning and I don’t think I can ever be free. He is coming back. I still see him in my dreams, his tall frame and… Read More

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The Consent Workshop What It Means To Be Queer And Sexually Traumatized (TW)

What It Means To Be Queer And Sexually Traumatized (TW)

As a queer man, sex is a significant part of my life. When most cis heterosexual people learn of my sexuality the first thing they do is sexualize me and think or wonder ‘ wow, so he fucks guys?’ or ‘ is he the one who fucks or the one who gets fucked?’, often times they vocalize this and say it right to my face.

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