The Consent Workshop “How to Prevent rape?”

“How to Prevent rape?”

People spend so much time telling women how to avoid rape in a bar or an alley but what are the prevention measures women should take when the rapist isn’t the stranger in the bar who offered to buy a drink, or the stranger on the train/bus who stared at you all through the ride? What do we do when the rapist is a brother, father, uncle or husband? I’ve heard so many rape prevention measures usually targeted at women and girls, things to do and things not to do to prevent it yet people rape women and girls everyday, one would think that with so many prevention measures out… Read More

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The Consent Workshop Sleep Was My Escape (TW)

Sleep Was My Escape (TW)

TRIGGER WARNING: SEXUAL ABUSE I was not the perfect victim. I get slut-shamed to this very day, because I was not your good girl with the long skirts. I am constantly told I must have asked for it, that I didn’t fight back enough. I froze. Olohije Oyakhire  They didn’t understand my reaction to this violence. Sexual Violence, a term I have come to prefer saying in place of the four letter word that means I have been tainted. My soul was darkened by that morning and I don’t think I can ever be free. He is coming back. I still see him in my dreams, his tall frame and… Read More

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The Consent Workshop The Genesis and Cycle of Slut Shaming

The Genesis and Cycle of Slut Shaming

Slut Shaming is a vigorous and highly effective tool of Patriarchy and its gatekeepers. It is one of the simplest and commonest ways to force women to shrink themselves, to be less and to restrain them from taking an active role in their sex lives. I remember the first time I was slut-shamed. I was 12, and I’d been a huge tomboy, only concerning myself with anime, football and rap music. Boys never saw me as a girl: I was too boyish, too awkward and too plain to capture the fancy of any boy in a school with a huge disproportionate girl to boy ratio. I was content with my… Read More

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